🌿 Living Fully, Dying Peacefully: Why I Became a Death Doula

There are moments in life that change us forever.
For me, those moments came through grief, illness, and the quiet reckoning that happens when you realise life isn’t endless.

I didn’t set out to become a death doula. It was life—and loss—that called me to this work.

Like so many people, I’ve faced hardship, illness, and sorrow. I’ve sat beside people I loved as they took their last breaths. I’ve experienced fear that comes when everything familiar slips away. And through it all, I came to understand something simple yet profound:
the only way to die happy is to live fully.

When we accept the reality of our mortality, something shifts.
We begin to see what really matters—love, connection, meaning, laughter, forgiveness, and peace.
That realisation inspired me to help others navigate their own journeys toward a more conscious, compassionate relationship with life and death.

The Role of a Death Doula

As a death doula, I walk beside people and families as they prepare for, experience, and live beyond death.
My role isn’t medical—it’s emotional, spiritual, and practical.
I help people explore what they want and need during one of life’s most sacred transitions.

I work within four domains of care, each offering a different kind of support:

1. Advance Care Planning

Facing the future begins with understanding your choices.
Together, we talk about what matters most—comfort, dignity, autonomy—and put those wishes into words and documents that guide care.
This planning brings peace of mind to both the individual and their loved ones.

2. Legacy Planning

Every life leaves a mark.
Legacy planning isn’t only about wills or possessions—it’s about sharing your story, your values, your voice.
I help people capture memories, letters, recordings, and creative expressions that celebrate who they are and what they love.

3. Vigil Support

The dying process can be one of the most intimate, beautiful, and mysterious times of life.
As a doula, I provide guidance and presence through that process—helping families create a calm, comforting environment and supporting the person who is dying in alignment with their wishes and beliefs.
It’s about bearing witness with love and helping to ease fear.

4. Grief Support

Grief doesn’t end when the funeral is over. It’s an ongoing relationship with love and loss.
I support individuals and families as they navigate grief—helping them find meaning, ritual, and permission to feel everything that comes.

A Path Toward Living Fully

People often ask me if working so closely with death is heavy.
The truth is—it’s the opposite.
Being a death doula has made me more alive than I’ve ever been.

When we stop running from death, we begin to live with intention.
We notice the small things. We say “I love you” more often. We make peace where we can.
We choose presence over perfection.

Through my own experiences of sorrow and fear, I learned that facing death doesn’t take life away—it gives it depth.
And that’s why I do this work:
to help others find that same depth, that same courage, that same sense of peace.

Because in the end, death isn’t the opposite of life—it’s a part of it.
And when we live fully, we die with grace.

If you’d like to learn more about how I can support you or your loved one through advanced care planning, legacy creation, vigil support, or grief, please reach out.
Together, we can make space for what matters most—living fully, right up until the very end.